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Handling a Loss


What to do when you first find out a loved one has passed away

A lot of things go through a person’s mind when they are faced with the horrifying reality of losing a loved one.  Whether the person you have lost is a parent, a child or a life partner this is never an easy time.  A funeral service can be the most stressful and heart wrenching experience a person ever lives through.  Funerals are meant to assist the surviving loved ones to grieve and eventually move on.  This process of healing can be lengthy and cannot be expected to end overnight.  Healing can be easier when some of the stress is lifted from the planning process.  Most funeral homes will assist the family by providing them a list of things to consider before, during and after the service.  Some of the hardest things to do when preparing for the funeral of a loved one are to consider things such as how the person passed on, and as a result of that passing; whether there will be a service with a visitation, or just a service with no viewing.

When a person passes away more often than not doctors or ambulances are called depending on where and how the passing occurred.  After this point the deceased is often moved to the medical examiner’s office or directly to the funeral home.  In any event the transportation of the body to the funeral home will be arranged by the funeral home of your choice and will not be left to the family to handle on their own.  While the professionals are taking care of the transportation and medical procedures the family members will be left with the task of planning the services, as well as the very important task of deciding what the deceased will wear.  Although in this time of extreme grief it may be nearly impossible to consider such trivial things as what outfit the person will wear, this is a very important thing to consider.  More often than not loved ones will easily choose a dress or a suit for the loved one but they will forget small touches such as whether or not their loved one normally wore pantyhose or other under garments such as boxers, briefs or socks.

Depending on the circumstances surrounding the passing of the loved one it might be necessary to go shopping for an appropriate outfit for the funeral if there will be a viewing.  If the passing was an expected one and the illness long, it is likely that the deceased had lost a considerable amount of weight since he or she last wore their own clothing.  When there will not be a viewing or visitation the fitting of the clothing is not so important.

Although the deceased will already be dressed and placed into the casket when the family arrives to the service the healing will begin much sooner if you are not concerned with inconsequential things like whether or not your loved one attended their own funeral completely dressed.

Deciding whether or not to have a viewing or visitation or to simply have a small memorial service without the deceased present is an entirely personal choice.  The reason behind the visitation is to provide a healing event for the remaining loved ones.  Often the people who are closest to the deceased will be moved quickly from denial, into healing when they are able to see their loved one.  For many people it is as they say ‘Seeing is believing’.  Not every individual needs or even wants to see their loved one after they have passed on.  This is a personal choice that should be left up to each loved one.  Most funeral homes will provide one large viewing or visitation room which is where the deceased will stay for the duration of the service.  Along with this visitation room there is usually an attached room with equal seating available for those loved ones who do not wish to be in the room or to view the deceased.  Since funeral homes make it easy to have a viewing without forcing everyone to view the body most funerals will include a viewing unless extenuating circumstances prevent it, or if it was the deceased personal choice not to have a viewing.             

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